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Family Crisis

My father-in-law's health has been declining badly in the last year.  But in the last three months, it has declined so badly that it is quite shocking for me to see.  He is eighty three years old.  Up to last year he was amazingly fit for a man of his age.  Three years ago, his hearing deteriorated so badly that my basic communication with him became almost impossible.  His vision is quite badly impaired too, I've noticed.  He is now unable to sit, stand walk, eat or drink.

This morning my husband and his brother took their father to the local hospital and got him admitted.  His inability to eat or drink meant that he needed specialised care.  He is also suffering from some kind of skin complaint which makes it impossible for him to maintain a reasonable temperature.  He is so cold all the time.  His skin irritates him constantly.

My husband is spending the night in the hospital along with his father.  My father-in-law's sister is also present there.  My mother-in-law, who is not keeping well either, sits at home, crying, talking on the telephone, constantly waiting for news.  It remains to be seen what will happen next.  Some of our family members located at distant places have started the journey to our house.  They will reach here within a day or two.

There's quite an uneasy atmosphere here.  My husband's not here and I can't sleep.  I haven't felt so uneasy in a long time.


  1. I'm thinking of you in these stressful times Maria and hoping for the best possible outcome. xo

  2. I am so sorry to hear of your family crisis. Your father-in-law is in my thoughts all these many miles away, as are you and the days ahead that you must face.

    Be strong.

  3. I don't know how the people in India feel about dying ...letting it happen when the body starts failing in many ways or go to extreme measures to stave it off as long as possible. It sounds to me as if his time is coming. When you can't eat or drink, can't see or hear, can't stand or sit...

    I hope his passing is easy, on him and his family.

  4. I'm so sorry to hear that, Gaelikaa. Such sudden and global deterioration sounds like neurological problem. Has he had a brain cat scan done?

    Sending best healing thoughts for your father in law.

  5. Sorry to hear that, gaelikaa. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

  6. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

    Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. As I've said before, yours is one of my favorite blogs. It touches my heart.

  7. A big hug... It is so sad and one feels so useless in these situations. I hope he'll recover soon and I hope you all will feel better.

  8. Gaelikaa, I am sorry about your distress.

    There is a dried little rosebud from my garden on the edge of my keyboard. It's beautiful and a reminder of what's to come.

    With you in my thoughts,

  9. Gaelikaa, my heart goes out to you and I shall pray for you and yours. I know exactly what you are going through and I relate to you. Just remember one thing. This too shall pass.

  10. Take care gaelikaa, patience and continued prayers may bring some ease.

  11. i'm so sorry to hear it. times like these are so worrisome and trying. big hugs.

  12. We pray that whatever happens do happen for good!
    God Bless you and your family

  13. You and the family are in my thoughts and prayers. One of my candles has your name on it.

  14. It's a very difficult time for all of you, and I'm not surprised you can't sleep. My thoughts are with you. Much love xxx

  15. Elizabeth, Lisa, Ellen, Hilary, Carla, Jean, Daisy, Ursula, Ramana Bhaiyyaji, Ocean Girl, Michelle, Suman, Marie, Linda and Anna - your love and support is giving me so much courage - God bless all of your!

  16. I found your blog on the blog roll of a blogger friend, and your current experience brings home memories of my father's death just over 2 years ago. So hard, regardless of the situation. I was grateful to have lived near him the final 3 years of his life. Now we watch over Mom. God bless.


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