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Ten Things I Never Knew Until I Was A Mother....

#1.  That having a baby changes your life so thoroughly that you will never, ever, be the same again.

#2.  That my attitude to my mother would undergo a sea-change.  That the things I once hated about her I would love about her once THIS happened to me.

#3.  That I would be so exhausted and drained that I would rejoice when they went to sleep.

#4.  That I would turn into a lioness protecting a cub if anyone upset my kid.

#5.  That my life would stand still when they were sick.

#6.  That I would be absolutely gutted and wounded when my kids rebelled against me and answered me back.

#7.  That putting them in school for the first time would be major trauma.

#8.  That I would be jealous if anyone else i.e. grandparents tried to take them over.

#9.  That they would grow up so fast.

#10. That my husband and I would actually forget to have time for each other....and not even notice!

One more thing - it's all worth it!  I mean, what would I do without them?  All four of them...

This post was inspired by the writers' workshop assignment at the blog Mama's Losin' It.  I looked at the prompts and got inspired by the above title.  Hence the post!


  1. Gaelikaa, your posts are always so inspiring and well-worth reading.

    Kuldhara — A Cursed Village Near Jaisalmer

  2. fabulous list...i can't wait to become a mother. we're planning our first child in 2011 and i can hardly wait!

    p.s read your "about me" section and i can't even begin to imagine the kind of interesting changes your move to India would have demanded out of you! Would love to read more about your experiences...xo

  3. I definitely experienced most of these if not all after having my children. I often refer to my son as God's "wake up call" to me to get my life in order. Life certainly changes after kids!

    Thanks so much for dropping by my blog...I appreciate your kindness!!

  4. Being a mother certainly changes your life forever. Each stage provides different joys and pleasure, from the tiny bundle totally dependent right through to the independent adult who is my friend.

  5. Yes though I haven't children I can see your point(s)! I wish I'll be a mother some day! :-)

  6. I agree so much except about the attitude toward my mother. It just hardened. Also, didn't have to worry about grandparents trying to 'take over' as neither sets seemed interested in being grandparents.

  7. Oh I so agree with all those things. And it doesn't change..even when they become adults and you reach the grandmother stage like me.

  8. Oh yes, you nailed them. There's a whole new set of them when they hit their teens though..

  9. I was close to my mother before I had my daughter and that never changed.

    I also have never been a lioness protecting my cub. I've always thought of my daughter as a person in her own right. My job wasn't to keep her from being upset, it was to help guide her to eventually negotiate the world on her own. I wanted her to learn to do this in age-appropriate steps so even though part of me wanted her to be happy all of the time, a more important part was glad that my husband and I were there for her when she learned to deal with problems.

    Maybe I'm an unnatural mother? ;)

  10. Bhavesh - Thank you!

    Persis - Welcome back anytime. I'll visit you too.

    Kerri - Thank you for coming over.

    Marie - I love your take on that.

    Daisy - Thanks!

    Linda - I think once you're in, you're in for life...

    Hilary - My eldest two are teens and I can see what you mean.

    Jean - You're not unnatural at all. You're great. It's different for everyone.

  11. Great list and very very true!!! Visiting from mama kats!!

  12. My son Ranjan is 39! I would still do the things that you would do for your children. His mother would have agreed with you 100%.

  13. I am the Tauji in my family. Guess how it feels?

  14. I can so relate to all of these! Great list.

  15. yeah, your list pretty much nailed it. i had no idea how much this being a mom thing was going to rock my world. i'm afraid for the talk-back years. right now we're just working on getting the right things (food, not wood chips) in the mouth.

  16. There is nothing better than being a mother - no matter how much it changes our lives!! I love your list!!

  17. Great list. Number 1 is so true. I wish I could feel a little more of number 2 just now.

  18. Just caught up on reading your blog. So sorry to hear of your loss - and lots to cope with including supporting your hubby and coping with constant visitors. Hugs and prayers.

    Love this post and so, so true - I agree with all of them!

  19. Love your list, and I'm so glad you were inspired. I've had a blast surfing around and seeing the differences and similarities in everyone's lists.



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